Every one of them says – stand out, be different, find your USP, be a purple cow, good is the enemy of great, be extraordinary, be the first or be the best..
Everywhere I look around, passionate people are standing on soapboxes & talking about – you guessed it – being different, being unique, being extra-ordinary.
I’m one of them.
Normal is boring.
Ordinary is Obscurity.
You’re no one unless you’re SOME one.
You’ve got to stand out and be who you are, cos everyone else is taken.
I don’t know about you but I’m getting quite tired of this hoopla.
With all this pressure to stand out and be special.
I’m tired of trying to figure out my genius zone, what makes me special, different, unique so I can apply that to life, business, relationships. Tired of this “extra” “better” “more” mindset.
You want to be extra-ordinary?
Then get off the bandwagon & stop trying to be extra-ordinary.
That my friend, will take you leaps and bounds ahead of the masses (self included), all scrambling to find their Unique Special Thing without which they’re so obviously doomed to live an ordinary (and apparently, unsuccessful), life.
Does this make you uncomfortable?
Me too. It’s not the easiest thing to say -
“I am ordinary. I am no different from you or you, or you. I am the same as you, I want pretty much the same things (love, happiness, money, health) even though the form these take may be different”
You don’t need to stand out. You don’t need to be special.
All you need, is the courage to be that which you already ARE.
To me, THAT’s extra-ordinary.
Don’t get me wrong – I do believe that we each have amazing talents and skills. But in this search for excellence, we’re reduced to standing out.
Yes, REDUCED to standing out.
When did being extra-ordinary become such a huge thing? And when I look at what people mean by extra-ordinary, it’s things like:
- play more
- work less
- have adventures
- find your passion
- do what you love
- make a difference in the world
- inspire people
- live an inspired life
- life life on my own terms
Wow. How much of this reads like just living a joyful life, in alignment with your basic desires?
Our world is so freakin’ skewed – this life is called “extra-ordinary”?
Why isn’t this the NORM? Why isn’t this called a GOOD life, a normal life?
- What if, instead of wanting to be the best, you want to be happy.
- What if, instead of trying to find what makes you so different, you embrace what makes you the same.
- What if, instead of standing out, you do what you love.
- What if, you connect with your soul and only do what makes it sing.
This was brought home to me in a big way recently when I was agonising about wanting to be different, stand out and find ‘my thing’, my USP that would make me memorable and unique amongst thousands of coaches & online entrepreneurs.
I *think* I know what I want – I want to be a BRAND, I want to INSPIRE people, I want to be SUCCESSFUL.
But really, what I really truly want, more than all this, is to have way more happy than sad moments, explore the world, experience different stages of life, be of service, give back & have tons of fun.
So I wondered “how can I be of highest service”?
And I was told – you are of highest service when you are following your joy.
That simple. THAT ordinary. If joy = love, compassion, fun, connection, then that’s my mecca.
I don’t want to be extraordinary or special. I just want to BE.
Maybe what’s needed is for each one of us to find the courage within to be ordinary. So we can REDEFINE what that means.
It means – you are special, and so is everyone else.
It means – you don’t go looking for what makes you DIFFERENT, you find what lights you up & makes you, you.
It means – Living life YOUR way.