So ya’ll know I’m doing this thing.
Along with 2000 other bloggers, I’m reflecting on 2010 & everything that happened (or didn’t) + being intentional about 2011.
It’s been a fascinating year. The word I chose to describe it? Illuminate.
And about half a dozen more – tumultous, smeary windshield, courage, resistance, butterflying, big leap.
I think what I’m saying is, it was contradictory.
Dec 4 How did you cultivate a sense of wonder in your life this year? (Author: Jeffrey Davis)
How indeed – By going down rabbit holes, swallowing the red pill, living in a state of excitement, discovery, caterpillarism, fear, courage and sheer human-ness. What a RIDE!! And you know what? I wouldn’t change it for the world.
I have wondered ALL year, every day.
This isn’t bad, just highly illuminating. Oh see, we’re back where we started.
There’s a lot I understood and did, a lot I resisted with all my subconscious might.
No matter, for where I am today is so far along this journey into integrity, self, beliefs, mindset & choice, that #reverb10 might just have been created for me (I’m a fab manifestor!)
The biggest thorn has been clarity. Or lack thereof.
What’s been 9 months in the unveiling, is very very close and it’s time to step back & allow the path to show itself. This takes trust & guts. I have plenty of both.
I wasn’t sure where to take my blog and business. I didn’t know whether to focus on my passion for social media and business or personal development and growth. I was torn. I made progress, but slowly.
The one thing I AM super glad about is that I soldiered on amidst the confusion. Because sometimes, you need to go through fog before you can see clearly again. In fact, in business, it’s pretty much a given.
Idea –> Hone –> Confusion –> Clarity –> Refine –> Celebrate –> Evolve –> Repeat.
Michaelangelo said it best “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it” & “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free”.
So if you’ve gone through a testing time in your business (or life) wondering what to focus on, what you really want, which direction to head, take heart, you’re in the exalted company of artists.
Keep your eye on your vision, your WHY, and let the “form”, your Angel, reveal itself. It will.
I read 75 books this year. I attended about 7 conferences. I stuck my hand out to volunteer at events like Mike Dooley’s Tut tour, I got invited to a whole bunch of other events. I became the Yes woman of anything learning related. The Year of the Sponge.
All the while thinking, this is it, NOW I’ll know, now I’ll be able to pick my focus and direction.
Oh if it were that easy!
I tried to let my heart speak but let logic and my head decide. None of them felt right. I looked for answers outside of me, I asked people, I hired coaches and 9 months later, I was still asking the same questions, knowing yet not hearing or seeing that the outside isn’t where the answers are.
The outside isn’t where purpose lives.
You know this, right? And yet, like me, you’ve probably been like the tide – ebbing & flowing with the pull of the moon and resisting it somewhat.
This is normal, natural and a fact of life – the sooner you embrace the uncertainty & undulating nature of business & life, the simpler it will be. Maybe no easier, but a heck of a lot simpler. And maybe even easier?!
It’s not a luxury, it’s a necessity to reflect. This month, I am giving myself FULL permission to explore. To not know. To take it up a notch and write as if I had a million in the bank, and nothing to gain from my writing.
As in, I’m not writing to help anyone, attract clients, comments, readers, or for money, fame, success, appreciation. Be great if that happens, but those are the outcomes of intention.
Instead, I’m writing what wants to be written. Zero Agenda.
To give 2011 a headstart.
What does my heart want this month? To play, explore, delve in, get messy, trust, be trusted. It wants to be fluid, give gifts of time, coaching & books, blog a lot, talk about passion, connect with people on skype, talk about whatever I want without worrying about how I am perceived. It wants me to come from intention, not out-tention.
Write as if I already have everything I ever wanted and have helped and made a difference and now all that is left is to explore my year in reverse and see how it came to be. Express myself with no restrictions.
I have NO idea what’s going to happen as a result!
Will I realise I want to live in the woods and get rid of my online life?
Will I go the Author route? Blogger route? Coach route?
All of them? None of them?
Will I let any of the above be my identity? None of the above? What then?
I don’t know.
All I know is that this is incredibly freeing.
Dec 5 What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why? (Author: Alice Bradley)
Expectations, mine and others
Hiding my true desires
Trying too hard
Not being Good Enough
Confusion & Indecision
Being someone I’m not
Because I’ve got one shot at making this life the best I can, and that means being bold & taking risks.
Because I don’t have it all together and I want you to know that, especially if you’re worrying you don’t either. Let’s be ecstactic about this!
What I DO have is the willingness to let it come together. In unexpected ways. What I AM doing is holding on and letting go.
And asking with wide eyed openness: I wonder what will happen?
You can too.
This Dec, I give myself permission to Be and Do as Spirit moves me.
I’d love for you to be along for the reverb ride and participate – it’s never too late! Who knows what may happen as a result?
I hope that my journey will be useful to you, however, I cannot give you permission to be you – only you can.
Blogging 3-5 times a week as opposed to the usual 2 on topics that may be all over the place and bring up all sorts of musings. I’ll accommodate #reverb10 prompts and if they trigger something else, I’ll follow my gut.
Starting with a bunch of shoulds, crossing them out & moving onto the wants. Let the fun begin!
- Pick a niche and stick to it
- Guest post for popular blogs
- Launch a Social Media course or product ‘cos everyone is
- Do things that will bring me money
- Blog about social media, business, coaching
- Hang out with the cool kids
- Send an ezine out twice a month or else people will ‘forget’ me
- Write with reverb, even if unrelated to anything I’ve ever talked about
- Let my heart lead, without worrying about consequences
- Get on skype with new lifestyler friends and just chat without an agenda
- Be Intentional with Social Media like I was earlier this year
- Celebrate all the crazy things I’ve done that make me unconventional & quirky
- A gift of coaching to the first 10 people to express interest. Leave a comment here to reserve your spot &/ email me what you want coaching on: tia at coachtia.com, no strings attached 🙂
- I’ve never done anything like this before but in keeping with my Dec intention, I’m following my heart’s desire. Being happily “homeless” is one – fun, powerful and impactful coaching as a gift (normally $477) is another. I look forward to hearing from you!
Now I have 2 questions for you. What would your life feel, look & be like if you stopped living upto:
1) Other people’s expectations?
2) Your own expectations?
What if you played with this question for a week and let yourself be as carefree as possible? What would happen? It may or may not work for you but wouldn’t it be illuminating to know? Will you give yourself this gift today?
Take on this thought / challenge / whatever you want to call it and see what comes up. Share your learning and experience around what life would be like without expectations (the “good” or “bad” ones). Which would you choose to keep and which would you let go?
”The way this works is, you do the thing you’re scared of and you get the courage after you do it, not before you do it.” George Clooney in Three Kings.
Will you share what came up? Thank you.