As my mom entered my room, I wondered if she noticed the overpowering smell.
She touched my head and felt the heat burn into her hand.
The onion safely tucked away in my armpit had done its work. I now had a fever and it was enough to get me out of going to school on a day I really didn’t want to go.
(I’ll wait till you’ve stopped laughing at my ingenuity).
Fast forward to present time. The method has changed but the process remains the same.
When there’s something I don’t want to do, or when a major change needs to happen in my life (whether it be thoughts, behaviours, actions), and I ignore it, I get sick or hurt.
When I’m letting life happen to me instead of making life happen, I feel tired, listless, low on energy and totally unmotivated.
Like me, I know many of you have learned the hard way that avoiding a situation that’s not working anymore will just lead to it biting you on the bum.
If you won’t make the change, the Universe will oblige with a kick on the rear.
Have you seen that TV show – I didn’t know I was pregnant? I watched it the other day and was dumbstruck by how out of touch these women were with their bodies. They’re not alone though, it’s a common malaise in our world.
The more unconscious we are about our needs, the more we distract ourselves with wants, desires, possessions and things that don’t have anything to do with nurturing our bodies or souls, the further we are removed from our inner selves.
If you’ve ever woken up in the morning with an anxious feeling in your stomach as you prepare for a job interview, if you’ve ever sweated at the thought of asking a girl out, if you’ve ever taken an exam thinking you were going to fail, or wondered how you were going to make your mortgage payments, well, that’s not what I’m talking about.
All this is pretty darn normal and you’d have to be made of steel not to be nervous about these ‘milestones’ or important things in life.
I’m pointing to the things you do over and over on a regular basis, which twist your stomach in a knot and has you hating parts of your life or at the least, fill you with unease. Yet, you do them. If that isn’t madness, what is?
Like not wanting to get up and go to that sucky job for one more day and yet, not having the guts to do something else.
Like hating where you live, but not moving just cos you’d have to start over.
I’ve seen it time and again.
- Friends who get sick after months of hating their jobs and being too scared to do anything about it
- The girl at the store who looks like she’s sleep walking and would do well as a zombie
- The kid who’s playing soccer when he really wants to act, cos his folks have high expectations of him
- The wife who puts her dreams on hold to serve her family and is secretly miserable
- The husband who crushes his musical career to provide for his kids
I’ll just bet it’s happened to you too.
The thing is, if you’re lacking energy and motivation, chances are it doesn’t have as much to do with what you’re eating or doing, as much as what you’re thinking or making yourself do.
Your body is merely an expression of your thoughts and feelings. It’s your own personal barometer telling you how aligned you are with your life’s purpose.
It comes down to this: Are you doing what makes you happy? Are you following your passion?
Wayne Dyer talks about his son Sands, in Excuses Be Gone. Sands hates waking up in the morning, is always late to classes, has low energy and is often tired if he wakes up before noon.
And yet, when he goes on surfing trips or visits his dad in Maui, he’s up at the crack of dawn, making sandwiches and hitting the surf all day long. This, inspite of having stayed up late talking to other surfers, studying waves etc.
What a difference passion makes!
Luckily for Sands, his dad knows all about following your bliss and encourages him to follow his dreams.
And how about that Louise Hay?
You’ve probably heard about or read her book “You Can Heal Your Life”. She talks about how illnesses and diseases are psycho-somatic, meaning they arise from dis-ease in your thoughts and feelings.
In her book, she explains how our beliefs and ideas about ourselves are often the cause of our emotional problems and physical maladies and how, by using certain tools, we can change our thinking and our lives for the better.
I’ve seen it in action so many times in my life.
- When I didn’t want to be a massage therapist anymore but instead of quitting, I waited until I injured my wrist and couldn’t work for a year to give it up
- When I was living in the US and was tired of my life there but was too scared to leave and I sprained my ankle rendering me useless till I left
- When I injured myself about 5-6 days in a row before I finally changed something that wasn’t working for me
(In hindsight, I was subconsciously wearing those slippers so I’d have an excuse to create change and my fear wouldn’t be able to stop me!)
Time for a change?
2 weeks ago, when I realised it was time to move on from a couple of projects that I committed to and didn’t, I got sick for 5 days.
That’s when I finally decided I’d had enough. It was time to be more conscious and aware.
So, I listen to my body and am so in tune with it that I can tell right away if I’m aligned with my life, thoughts,words and passion. And I take action right away if I’m not!
So what about you?
Do you take action as SOON as you realise something’s not kosher, or do you ignore it till you’re forced to take action? Do you wait to get sick / unhappy / pushed in a corner before you’ll take a break?
Or do you pick up the message, watch for signs and pay attention to the message your body and circumstances are giving you?
When you start making small changes as soon as you know it’s needed, it’s much easier on you than when you wait till something awful happens. I’ve been lucky and gotten away with minor-ish injuries. And I’m not waiting for a serious shock to happen before I start listening!
Be willing to get in touch with your body today. Let it express your inner desires. A good place to start is with questions like what is your body telling you? What are you ignoring? What does it want you to do?
Starting today, make that a priority.
Get in touch with your body by meditating on it, thanking it for how hard it works for you, spending 5 minutes in complete silences, weekly walks, time alone, monthly massages, etc. It doesn’t matter how much time you spend, it matters how often you do it.
You with me on this? I’d love to hear what you think. Please share your experiences! What has your body been telling you and what happens when you listen / don’t listen? Thanks!