The Power of Belief, Caroline Casey & Johnny Cash

When I was 17, one of the worst things I could have ever imagined then, happened to me.

I did so badly in my class 12 pre-board exams, that I was kept back from taking the All-India Board exams. These are exams that grade 12’s across the entire country take at the same time, the results of which dictate the college you get admission to, upon which rests your entire future.

Or so I was taught to believe.

My dad could have talked the School Principal into letting me appear for the exams, but he decided it would do me good to repeat the year. His military training and sense of integrity led him to believe that was the best thing for me.

I was so humiliated I wanted to die.

But somehow, I managed to scrape my pride together and go through class 12 again, ending the year with 74% marks and 3 new best friends, who till date are my fribblings (friends+siblings). A happy ending of sorts.

Which isn’t the case for so many students in India who become household names in the national papers for committing suicide because the pressure of getting the highest marks possible is too much to bear and the competition for getting into a good college is so intense it can make James Dean look like a puppy.

I was luckier than them. Luckier than the friend’s friend who hung herself a few years later for getting 85% instead of the 90% that was expected of her.

When I think of those souls, it makes my heart tear apart.

Nothing should be worth that high a price.

Somehow, through all the ups and downs in my life, and there have been many, I soldiered on. I survived.

Untill.. it was different.

And one day, I was thriving.

This didn’t happen overnight, but slowly, slowly, I realised my life had changed. From thoughts of “I wish I was never born” in my intense teen years to “OMG I am so excited to be alive!”, it’s been one heck of a ride.

It occurred to me that my life was a gift.

And one day, I saw that it was bigger than me.

I had transformed my life into something to cherish by staying true to my values, my dreams, my core beliefs, my inner drummer girl. It became my compelling mission to consciously, and with awareness and courage, honour my life and live it my way.

Your life my friend, is such a rare gift.
A blessing. A treasure.

How are you treating it?

Are you allowing yourself to be rich, beautiful, joyous, happy? Are you living lusciously, true to your heart’s desires?

Or are you trudging along, heaving sighs of resignation, thinking “if only this or if only that” and letting fear whip your ass into staying in a job you’re sick of, a relationship that isn’t serving you, stifling your voice so as not to offend anyone, focusing on being liked vs being authentically you or delaying launching your new course, ebook or product cos if no one wanted it, it would crush you?

Are you still labeling yourself as stupid, not enough, unworthy, flawed, imperfect, victimised, restricted, afraid, stuck? YEAH-BUTing yourself because you still don’t GET it?

That you are SO much more than your thoughts, your beliefs, your emotions?

Every now and then, along comes someone like Caroline Casey to remind me just how far I’ve come, how blessed and lucky I am to be here, living my dream and making a difference in this world.

And, I hope, to show you how lucky YOU are to be in the body and life you inhabit.

To inspire you with her indomitable spirit.

To teach you that no matter how bad you think you have it, you don’t.

To imprint upon you the power within.

The Power of Choice.
The Power of Belief.

If you’re just surviving, you’re believing in the wrong thing.

To thrive, to shine, to SPARKLE, to be full of mojo, to explode with joy and aliveness, purpose and passion, there’s just one thing you need to do.

The thing that took me till a few years ago to learn.

You MUST Believe in yourself.
You MUST BELIEVE in your dreams. 

From the bottom of your heart, you must BE YOU.

(Ps: If it wasn’t for the amazing story she shares, I’d still watch it for her gorgeous Irish accent & love of country music!)

Has there been a time in your life when you didn’t believe in yourself? What changed that? What about now – what do you believe you need in order to have the life you want? Let’s bust some myths and separate them from the truth! 

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  1. says

    Wow. What an extraordinary TED talk! Thanks Tia for sharing this here.

    Thanks too for “being you”… for believing in yourself and encouraging everyone else to do the same. That’s all it takes to heal the world of the need to compare ourselves to others.

    • says

      Thanks Jean, it’s not the easiest thing to do – shake off all that conditioning and take off the comparison goggles and we might always see tinted, but my intention is that with awareness and practice, it won’t stop us from following our calling or being who we are anymore. I like the sound of that 🙂

  2. says

    Great post, Tia. LOVE the video, hadn’t seen this one.

    After reading, I sat w/the question of whether there has ever been a time in my life where I didn’t believe in myself. It’s interesting, ’cause I can think of plenty of times/moments when I haven’t been fully me (even still, there are waves, albeit small sized these days)…and yet, I have to say…no matter what ‘not so vortexy’ situation I may have created in my experience, no matter what was/is going on…I believe I’ve always heard, and been in touch with the Source Voice inside me saying I Believe in YOU. And I did. Do. I believe in me. And it makes it so much easier not to give a big rip if anyone else believes in me. Nothing to prove. Mmm. That’s the super delicious freedom piece for me!

    I’m just sitting here right now, thinking of times when things really sucked…and somehow, I can still see the Light of Me shining through…even if I couldn’t fully stand in my light at the time, I knew the Light was Me. I believe(d) in the LIGHT of Me. And that is/was enough.

    I’m rambling… You know how that is when you’re feeling a bit of a new vantage point vibe…and putting it into words feels like it minimizes the fullness of the experience? That’s kinda what’s happening. So, I’ll leave it at that. I believe in me. That feels good. No explanation necessary! 😀 And thanks for asking!

    Thanks for shining the way you do…and for sharing your YOUness w/us!

    • says

      Debra, I remember source telling me who I was but by not listening and trying to belong and fit in instead, I lost sight of me. And so, I didn’t believe in myself cos I had walls built around my core self. I wonder though .. did I?

      At a deeper level, even if I couldn’t see it, did I? If at any given time, if we always know in our heart of hearts but just can’t hear, see or acknowledge it, what you’re saying would make so much sense!

      Totally spot ya on the new idea/rambling/putting into words feeling. Rock it sista, can’t wait to hear what comes of it. Or actually, I can 🙂 Thanks for responding, love ya!


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