Guest post from Natalie Sisson, The Suitcase Entrepreneur. Natalie’s a Business & Social Media Coach from New Zealand, who lives and works on her own terms all over the world.
I seriously hope you graciously told them where to stick it.
This world is full of too many people making excuses for not living life on their own terms. Whenever people doubt your abilities or tell you something can’t be done, they are in fact projecting their own fears on to you.
Worst of all is that little voice in your mind that says those sorts of things to you on a daily basis – if you let it.
Things like `You know you’re not really good enough at this, there are far more talented people out there than you’. Or `why did you think you could charge that much, you’re not an expert, nobody will ever pay you that much’.
I know it’s hard, telling your inner critic to shut-up or your lizard brain to back off. But you absolutely have to.
There is another way
Whenever I get struck by fear, or think I can’t possibly pull something off, I simply look at my guiding values in life. For me, these are to create freedom in business and adventure in life.
Not just for myself but for my community of fellow Suitcase Entrepreneurs who look to me for inspiration and motivation on a daily basis.
Imagine if I had talked myself out of starting my business almost 2 years ago?
- I would never have had the opportunities that I’m presented with now or the thriving business I love
- I would never have had the ability to make a difference in other peoples’ lives
- Or felt the joy I get when I receive emails from people who tell me how I touched their lives or got them thinking, taking action and starting their business
I had no idea how to blog, and even though I had 10 years experience in marketing, that is completely different to online marketing and understanding the art of the internet and e-commerce.
Yet, I backed myself – or more rather gave myself no choice other than to fail fast or gloriously succeed.
Yes, I had to become accustomed to and accepting of failing – a LOT.
Each time it gets a little easier. Your ego bruises less easily, you learn the lessons from the failure and apply them to be more successful the next time.
Failure Is Your Friend
It may seem like a strange concept to you, but think about Edison who failed 1,000 times before inventing the lightbulb. Imagine not giving up on your idea despite having 1,000 failures?
Yet he knew each time that he was getting one step closer to producing something brilliant.
The thing is, anything worth doing, anything that will make you proud and make a big impact on others, is not going to be easy. It’s not just going to come to you overnight and be a breeze to implement.
Nope it’s going to take hard work, sweat, blood, tears, determination and a huge amount of self belief.
It’s going to take setbacks, cost money, and be `pooh-poohed’ by those who love you most, or others who just don’t get it (but I get it, I know your brilliance even if it’s currently a diamond in the rough).
The trick is knowing when you’re making progress towards succeeding, or if you’re flogging a dead horse.
There are times when you need to let go of your idea, especially if you really are seeing no traction in what you’re doing and it’s not a problem or challenge that many people face and actually will pay you money to solve.
That’s the only exception.
Discovering your diamond
So back to your diamond in the rough.
I love this analogy because you’d never realize what gorgeous gem was buried in cold, hard rock until you had lovingly extracted it, continued to refine and buff it and finally polish it up into a sparkling beauty.
This is what you should be doing with your life, and your business!
Each day you should be working on ways to take off those rough edges and bring out the true brilliance in you.
Some of the simple ways to do this are by
- focusing on the things you’re doing really well, and
- congratulating yourself each day for one thing you did that you’re proud of – no matter how small.
When you feel flat or like you’re not getting anywhere pull up those testimonials you’ve received or those glowing emails from customers, friends and strangers that instantly make you remember why you’re doing what you do, day in and day out.
You can even look at the meaning behind a well intentioned criticism and what you can apply from their feedback to do even better next time.
It’s looking for the nuggets of insight that will help you to know you’re on the right track, that you’re making a difference and leaving a legacy.
Baby You’re A Firework
How can you not love Katy Perry’s song `Baby you’re a firework, come on show them what you’re worth’?
It’s your time to light up the sky with your brilliance.
Now you’ve discovered your diamond and polished it up, you need to wear that bling out and show off the sparkle and bling!
I see too many people being ordinary, quashing their talents and unique abilities because they don’t want to come across as tacky, or salesy or too self promotional.
I get that, but the one thing you are responsible in this world is putting your best foot forward. You need to become an expert online marketer.
Marketing yourself is key to everything you do and you can do it in an ethical, loving and inspiring way. But quit playing small, quit hiding and quit being average.
As Marianne Williamson so rightly said:
“It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
Have YOU had people try to stop you from following your dream? What did you do? Thanks for sharing!
Natalie Sisson is the Founder of The Suitcase Entrepreneur – a highly popular blog that shows entrepreneurs how to build a thriving online business they can run from anywhere. The focus is on creating freedom in business and adventure using online tools, social media and outsourcing to set up a portable business that allows you to live the lifestyle you desire.
Natalie lives and breathes what she preaches which is why she’s able to take off to Africa this March to cycle 6,445km from Nairobi to Capetown. If you’d like to follow her journey and support her mission to raise $10,000 for WomenWin.org then head to The Ride of my life.
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