One of you posed a question in the rebranding survey that got me thinking.
Specifically, you wondered how you could find the mental space, the courage you need to take control of your life & career.
One that’s not as enjoyable as you wish.
It’s not the first time I’ve heard the wistfulness and frustation behind the query.
If you’re not someone who feels like this, then you’re someone who used to or someone who knows someone else who still does.
It’s that feeling of a life half lived. On everyone’s terms but your own, or so it feels. I can tell you this, it wasn’t the easiest thing in the world for me to find the answers. And when I did, oh boy.
It really was the simplest thing.
We often say “it’s simple but not easy” (sounds like a self limiting belief to me, one that I definately want to explore cos isn’t Ease just a matter of habit – the more we practise, the easier it get? .. I digress).
Wikipedia defines Courage as: bravery, fortitude, will, and intrepidity, the ability to confront fear, pain, risk/danger, uncertainty, or intimidation.
You already know that the concept of courage being something external that you have to find or develop in order to get the life you want, is flawed.
There are many occasions in your life that you have exhibited courage, even if you didn’t know it at the time. Those were times you didn’t have to ask for it, look for it or try to build it.
Those were times when you were in alignment with your values, your beliefs, your essential self. The times you were just BEING.
Like when you stood up for a friend being picked on, when you let yourself be vulnerable in love, when you were hurt by someone and got over it, when you got fired and picked up the pieces to start over, when you left home to go to Uni thousands of miles away, when you spoke up at the office meeting.
You might think “oh, but that’s not courage, that’s just life”.
I’m here to tell you,
Courage isn’t just something you magically grow in an emergency or when something goes wrong.
Courage is not something that comes to you when you’re fighting a serious illness like cancer. That my friends, is what you do to survive.
In my opinion, we’ve got it backwards.
Courage is daily life.
The little decisions we make on a regular basis when we choose “right” from wrong”, act with integrity, the choices we make when no one is looking.
It’s all too easy to dismiss those decisions as “life”.
What would change if you started viewing yourself as living courageously, with heart, every day of your life?
Because you are.
You’re just not seeing it, or focusing on it enough. As long as you think courage is something you have to develop, you’ll find yourself lacking.
When you start noticing and being aware of the actions you take daily, the words you speak, the thoughts you think, and commit to them being aligned with your values, then my friend, you’re living a courageous life.
Even though the degree might vary.
Each time you make a decision to be who you truly are, you’re tapping into your inner self, which is where courage lives. And you start living a life YOU want.
So how do you become more aware of how truly courageous you ALREADY are and CELEBRATE your way into more acts of courage?
Here are my top tips:
- Treat life as an adventure – you’re not here to “get it right”, you’re here to have the experiences you want
- Raise your consciousness
- Find one thing you did each day that is courageous by these standards
- Make a list of times in your life you’ve acted with courage, ie, listened to your heart, stood up for someone or something you believed in. You’ll be surprised how many times you were being brave but didn’t even know it.
- Experiment with fear
- Remember that everything is temporary – if you lose what you fear losing, you will still be MORE than ok
- Know that no matter what, you cannot make a wrong choice – your choices ARE your unique life path
Courage isn’t about freeing yourself of undesirable situations, it’s allowing yourself to step into more of YOU. How’s that for living your life to its fullest, funnest potential? There’s nothing to change, just more of you to discover 🙂
I’d love to hear about you – when was the last time you acted courageously, whether you realised it at the time or not? Are there some areas of your life where you’re more courageous than others? What’s different there? Looking forward to your insights and experiences. Thanks in advance for sharing!