Smart. Happy. Kickass. Women.
Create a R-evol-ution of Joy.
From teenage rebellion to glorious womanhood, here are some lessons I’ve learned about what makes some women sparkle like sunshine, inside and out.
Of such a tribe, I firmly believe you are too. Whether you do some of these, all, or none, you have within you the potential to be, do, and have everything you ever wanted. Happiness is just a habit that can be yours for life with a little daily practice. Really.
And yes, this applies to men too.
# 1 – Smart, happy women believe in themselves.
Sure, they may …
… have doubts from time to time
… want to improve parts of their life and self
… wish they had someone else’s life in a rare moment of angst
… have the occasional day where the only thing that seems even slightly possible is stay in bed and watch reruns of Desperate Housewives!
But on the whole, they are confident and secure in who they are.
AS THEY ARE.
Here and now.
# 2 – let go of drama
# 3 – know what’s important to them
# 4 – act like they are worth it
# 5 – love and respect themselves
# 6 – acknowledge their strengths with quiet confidence
# 7 - choose their ‘battles’ wisely
# 8 – focus on the rocks vs the pebbles in their life
# 9 – don’t squander their energy on people who bring them down
# 10 – take care of themselves regularly
# 11 – treat their me-time as sacred and precious
# 12 – start their day off with a moment of gratitude / intention setting
# 13 – really listen
# 14 – collaborate vs bare knuckled compete
#15 – respond vs react
#16 – know their values and live by them
# 17 – make decisions based on what feels good and right
# 18 – act courageously
# 19 – believe that everything always turns out for the best
# 20 – don’t sweat the small stuff
# 21 – are optimistic and realistic and dreamy and idealistic and of all sorts!
# 22 – have clear boundaries and know that boundaries are a form of love
# 23 – find something good in every situation
# 24 – look at things from more than one perspective
# 25 – focus on what they want, not on what they don’t want
# 26 – complain less, appreciate more
# 27 – know the value of a good crying / venting session and don’t judge themselves or others for it
# 28 – pay attention to their emotional, physical, spiritual health
# 29 – are lit up from within – they find what truly lights them up and do it
# 30 – have a sense of purpose
# 31 - have more “oh well” moments than “if only”
# 32 – have dreams and desires and are taking steps to get there
# 33 – make time to play, play, play!
# 34 – are passionate about something, anything
# 35 – get out of their comfort zone time and again, growing their confidence every time
# 36 – create space and time for giving back in small or big ways
# 37 – find joy and pleasure in the smallest things – a smile, a flower, a compliment
# 38 – look for ways to add value vs ways to succeed (and end up doing both!)
# 39 – nurture quality relationships with other women in their lives
# 40 – spoil themselves without waiting for someone else to do it
# 41 – know they are born worthy + abundant, even if they forgot it for a while
# 42 – fly their freak flag high
# 43 – create memories and savour experiences
# 44 – splurge on themselves without going into debt
# 45 – smile … a lot
# 46 – only look back to see how far they’ve come & high five the present, not to cry over the past
# 47 – are proud of their achievements, accomplishments, successes
# 48 – but don’t let them define who they are
# 49 – do their best and let go of the rest
# 50 – forgive themselves and others for they know resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die
# 51 – rid their lives of clutter on a regular basis – mental, physical, emotional, digital, spiritual, etc
# 52 – let go of comparisons as soon as they find themselves comparing (only human, yo!)
# 53 – feel sad when they are sad, angry when they are angry – they don’t make their feelings ‘bad’
# 54 – know that everything is temporary so don’t stay attached to their emotions
# 55 – may have compassion for, but don’t give a HOOT what naysayers and I-told-you-sayers say
# 56 – trust their intuition
# 57 – quit, but never give up
# 58 – live the life they want and choose, not the one others choose for them
# 59 – don’t let the fear of failure stop them from following their heart
# 60 – learn from ‘failures‘ and understand failing AT something is not = BEING a failure
# 61 – don’t take shi*t from anyone – they expect respect & dignity and get it .. or walk
# 62 – love with abandon
# 63 – give what they want to receive
# 64 – embody kindness towards all
# 65 – realise that happiness is more a function of attitude, than circumstances
# 66 – honour their femininity
# 67 – are true to themselves above all
# 68 – are authentic and vulnerable, strong and soft hearted
# 69 – say no when they mean no
# 70 – sod the whole life-work balance ‘cos it damn well doesn’t exist
# 71 – embrace their imperfections AND know they are perfect as they are
# 72 – ask for what they want
# 73 – communicate vs condemn
# 74 – stop ‘shoulding’ all over themselves
# 75 – Give themselves a break – they don’t do all of this all of the time!
Forget about being Superwoman, just be the HAPPY woman who lives her life her way, kicks a** and gets things done, leaves some stuff undone, and ends each day with a satisfied smile on her face, a sassy spring in her step, and the sound of her own destiny beating in her heart.
Smart women ALLOW themselves to be happy.
‘Cos happiness is a choice.
One that they make anew, every.single.day.
What would you add to the list? Tell me below + like, tweet, pin, stumble to share with kickass women you know, cheers!
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