We’re getting braver it seems.
Voices are getting louder.
People are starting to speak up & say their truth.
And the rest of humanity is waking up to realise that it’s their truth too.
It’s evident in that a couple of people have recently dared to say what they really thought and people swarmed them like bees on honey, hungrily lapping up authenticity and courage in its purest form.
Now, I’m not advocating you go tear your heart open and bleed all over the internet via a blog. That’s not what I am saying at all. It’s also NOT about writing something in order to go viral. If you do that, just know it ain’t gonna happen.
It’s not even about clickin’ a link either. Nope.
It’s about the voice in you that wants to be heard. And expressed.
By others, sure. But mostly, by YOU.
THIS is why you applaud and encourage people who stand up and open themselves to the scrutiny of strangers, attracting as many brickbats as bouquets.
When you (maybe) think “I admire their conviction and courage” or “I wish I could say what I really think but I can’t cos there’s too much to lose / people won’t understand me / people will think I’m nuts / my “professional” image will be affected, etc etc. ETC, you’re shutting down a part of you.
When you write a comment saying “you are so brave, awesome”, hit the “share” button and go your way, you think you’ve expressed yourself, spoken up and been heard as well. Maybe you have, to an extent.
Tell me this though, how is that showing up in your life? Is anything changing there or are you giving mere lip service?
If you can support someone else’s vulnerability, what about yours?
This is REAL life.
It’s about starting small, starting with you. Forget about the world for now. Let’s focus on you.
On Courage, Vulnerability. Openness. Being true to yourself. Loving yourself enough to stop living excuses and charades. Being brutally honest about what you want and who you are. Knowing where you sell yourself short.
It’s about taking a stand.
For your values. Your dreams. Your passion. Doing things your way.
It’s about going within and asking yourself the hard questions about what is really important to you and how much longer will you keep living someone else’s life?
It’s someone else’s life when you do what others expect of you by shutting down your inner voice (the good kind).
It’s someone else’s life when you tell yourself you have to be “realistic” at the expense of your true desires.
It‘s someone else’s life when you compare yourself to the mom next door. To your colleague. To your college roommate. To someone who started work / a business at the same time as you and is now ahead, or behind, you.
It’s someone else’s life when you make worrying what others will think more important than listening to your soul’s cry for expression, acknowledgement and the freedom to be you.
It’s someone else’s life you’re living each time you avoid doing something because of FEAR. Fear Of Failure. Rejection. Being unmasked as a fraud. Letting others see the real you. Not being good enough. Unworthiness. Loss.
It’s someone else’s life when you let expectations of others and yourself become bigger and more important than listening to the call of your heart.
It’s your life when you quieten enough to hear it.
It’s YOUR life when you start asking yourself who you are at the core.
It’s your life when you start understanding and creating your values.
It’s your life when you listen to your intuition over “reason” and “fact and logic”.
It’s your life when you say I don’t care if this is the way something’s always been done, I’m doing it my way.
It’s your life when you start taking responsibility for becoming more confident, loving, worthy, happy and connected.
It’s your life when you stop talking and start doing, one step at a time. When you take a stand for courage, connection, community, compassion like Brene Brown talks about in this hugely powerful talk.
What truth are you hiding from yourself and the world?
If people like Dan and Boo’s mom are taking a stand for what is important to them, expressing how they truly feel, why not you? Whether in public, or private, is not the question. What & When, is.
Let go of who you should be, so you can be who you ARE.
If you want less from life and not be judged for it, take a stand.
If you want more and be accepted for it, take a stand.
If you’ve been living someone else’s life, take a stand.
If you’re ready to start living your life, go on, take a stand.
You may still be judged, but do it anyways.
For at the end of this life’s journey, would you rather have conformed to what was expected of you, acted out of fear and buried your uniqueness or would you rather have lived boldly, joyously, experientially and in full expression and acceptance of your true essential self?
It’s time my friend, to take it one step further. Go beyond applauding others, and go home. Into you. Your time is now.
I leave you with the eternal words of Hillel at 2am:
“If I am not for myself, who will be for me?
And when I am for myself, what am ‘I’?
And if not now, when?
Indeed, If not you, then who?
And if not now, then when?
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