Get Over Yourself Darling.
Who do you think you are.
To say you’re going to change the world.
To think you need a mission to validate you.
Who do you think you are.
To say you don’t matter.
To measure your life using skewed standards of success, none of which were defined by you?
To cloak yourself in confusion and darkness.
To say you don’t know what your calling is, or who you are.
You know who you are. You know what you want.
You’re just playing the part of someone who doesn’t.
Cos it seems safer. Comfortable.
You act like you’re making this work.
When really, you’re whiplashing.
Who do you think you are?
No, not that.
Not that either.
There is nothing broken in you.
Nothing that needs to be fixed or changed.
You are perfect.
A child of God. A vision.
You are whole.
You are love.
You are source energy.
Nothing that is outside of you is your purpose, nor ever will be.
If you want to know why you are here and what you are here to do, look within.
Still your mind. Still the chatter. Still the outside.
Feel the silence.
Feel the love.
That you are.
Much is made of big, lofty, world changing goals.
I’m starting to feel though, that our purpose is NOT to change the world, but to be fully self expressed. And THROUGH that, create the world we desire.
You and I, we get so “significant” and deeply involved when we talk about life purpose and our calling or path, don’t we? Doesn’t passion feel so earnest and emotional and vulnerable, like baring your soul to be judged, poked at, admired or criticised?
No wonder we tend to get so serious about making a difference and changing the world.
AS IF there was something wrong with the world!
I’m taking a stand that there is NOTHING here to be changed. Nothing to be fixed. Our world is perfect in its imperfection, as are you and everyone you know. Besides, change already happens every second of the day, and that’s going to keep happening, whether you choose to direct it or not.
The struggle occurs when you think you should be saying and doing things that you aren’t.
Byron Katie says “Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing has ever happened that didn’t need to happen”. Trust that you are doing and saying exactly what you are meant to be. Anxiety, worry, struggle – they’re all signs of resistance to what IS.
And when you’re resisting, your energy is stuck and you can’t create.
Stop resisting you, you. And making yourself wrong. It’s your ticket to peace.
This is why you might have noticed the mass consciousness trending around authenticity of late. As I wrote in the Authenticity Paradigm, authenticity isn’t about finding a goal so big that it makes your life worth something.
It’s about FINDING out what makes you tick, your dreams, desires and wants.
It’s about OWNING who you really are and what you really want, no matter how unconventional or against society’s grain it is.
It’s about LIVING it out fully, without reservations.
I’ve touched on this before and think it’s worth exploring and emphasising again (thanks Myra):
What if your purpose was simply this – to be you. To be you. To be fully, unashamedly, passionately, flawedly, perfectly, YOU?
It makes me smile, passion. Like a tender child, it needs to be nurtured, and at the same time, set free. When you do that, your mission naturally unfolds.
Let me repeat: It’s NOT about changing the world, it about creating the world you want!
For me, my purpose/path/calling/whatchumaywannacallit would be thus:
Be fully alive and experience all emotions, knowing that none are permanent.
Every day, feel ALIVE!! Dance in the kitchen. Use a ton of exclamation marks!
If my purpose was joy, this is how it would play out:
Eat more Nutella! Love more openly! Hug strangers! Love myself. Have giggle fests! Be spontaneous. Look people in the eye. Smile. See the beauty in everyone. Have gobs of fun. Be in integrity with my words, actions and thoughts. Choose how I want to feel. Silliness. Read on the couch and fall asleep with the book trailing off my hand. Cry when I’m hurt. Tell people how I really feel. Be real. Kick guilt to the curb.
Every day, I’d radiate love, fulfillment and joy.
And let that mean whatever it means.
When you do that, you have so much more to offer the world. By allowing yourself to be you, you allow yourself to serve others.
The more you can be for yourself, the more you can be and do for others.
When you are living YOUR potential, only then can you inspire others to live THEIRS. When you speak your truth, you encourage others to speak theirs.
When you act with courage, it helps others access theirs.
When you have found/owned and are living your purpose and taken a stand for it, you encourage others to do so as well.
When I do that,
The bigger purpose of my life becomes living joyfully and helping others to find and fulfil their vision of a kickass life!
This is living my life my way.
Everything on the outside is but a manifestation of Being. For if I have not walked this path, what could I tell you about it? How could I help you? What good is a purpose like “change the world” if I haven’t changed my perspective?
When you are fully self expressed, you positively impact all those who cross your path. When you do that, you make it not about you, but about your world.
If you feel making it about you is too small, I challenge you to think again. For it’s through living out your values, that you make the biggest impact on the world.
Your purpose really, truly does start with your self first, then others.
When Gandhi said “Be the change you want to see in the world”, he didn’t mean the world needed to be changed! He meant, create the world you want by changing either who you are, or what you want. At least that’s how I see it.
I’m curious to know what you think! Is purpose important to you? Can you live without it? How would you define it? Do you know your purpose? Are you looking for it? Do you think it’s all bollocks?
What would you say your purpose is?
Thanks for sharing, I’m SO looking forward to your thoughts on this one! Especially if you’re a lurker and have never commented, let’s hear from you too. This is something that pertains to every single one of us. Cheers!