What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life. – Leo Buscaglia.
I’m going to let you in on one of the not-so-secret secrets of life..
BEING HAPPY IS SEXY!
Let’s be honest: The world is full of all types of people, many of them miserable and unhappy. And you know what?
They want company.
Your social network feeds are full of people bitching and complaining about the injustices of society – like Starbucks being out of pumpkin muffins, their company’s policy against being on Facebook during work, or the audacity of the airline making them wait ten minutes for baggage.
Every time you talk to your best friend, she complains about her husband. Every time you walk into a meeting, people grumble about their work load.
In a society where we are expected to want the next big thing, the newest gadget, to strive for more, it can be a challenge to find contentment and satisfaction.
But you have a choice.
You could take up the mantra “If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” and proceed to grumble, complain and bitch.
Or you could choose not to.
You could choose to find something to be happy about, instead.
I know that the washed and perfumed masses may try to squash your joy. I understand that your friends and family members may remind you of past failures.
It isn’t that they want to cause you pain, it simply means that they are struggling with pain of their own. Or they’re afraid that if you don’t complain together, then you will lose your bond of friendship.
Don’t let their fears prevent you from stepping into your happiest, sexiest self!
Don’t let your own past fears stop you, either. The voices of the past may tell you that you don’t deserve to be happy. They may insist that you must be thin, rich, and beautiful to maintain happiness.
You are perfect as you are now in this moment, and if you are miserable on the inside, no amount of money, no number on the scale and no amount of plastic surgery will make it go away.
So how do you deal with those voices and people? Here are eight practices to help you on your way.
One: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.
It is no one else’s job, it is yours. If you look to the outside world for it, you’ll always be reaching for happiness instead of being happy.
Two: BE GRATEFUL.
Every night before you go to bed, write down at least three things you are thankful for. Going to sleep with gratitude on your mind will bring you a more positive approach when you wake to a new day.
Three: CLOSE YOUR EYES.
Turn a blind eye to all things media. Un-follow the Negative Nellie’s from Twitter, un-friend (or hide) the Facebook friends that only complain, and turn off the evening news.
Four: DISTANCE YOURSELF.
Don’t chime in when a co-worker complains. Don’t participate in gossip. Smile and walk away from negative social interactions.
Five: WORK IT, BABY.
If you are unhappy at your job, you have two choices: stop complaining and find the good in it or leave it. If changing jobs isn’t an option, then it’s time to find some delight in what you do each day.
Six: MAKE LOVE.
The right love relationship can make happiness a state of exhilaration. If you believe that you would be happy IF your partner changed, then you will be unable to discover any satisfaction. If you are not happy with who you are, then having a loving partner won’t fix it. If the state of your partnership is disintegrating, then you have a responsibility to yourself and the relationship to either change your attitude or your geography.
Seven: NO DRAMA, MAMA.
Allow those that you love – siblings, friends, family – to unburden themselves to you without attaching to their stuff. Remind them that you love them. Remind them that you want them to be happy. Turn the conversation to a happy memory, a funny anecdote, or an exciting upcoming event. Suggest to them a good therapist or coach – not as a judgment, but out of love.
Eight: SMILE !
A lot. Smile at grocery clerks and people that you pass. Smiles are catchy.
When you accept that it is not only OK to be happy, but that you deserve to be happy, you will transform. No matter how many Negative Nellies there are in the world that tell you that life is full of misery and woe, you can face the world with the knowledge that it’s okay to be happy.
You’ll find that the more abundance of joy you embrace, the more you will be able to shine your light of happiness to the world.
When you do shine that sexy brilliant light of happiness, you’ll find that that energy will be returned to you in every day interactions. When you look in the mirror, you’ll discover that the radiant woman in the glass is that sexy, confident, and happy you.
What will you do today to remind yourself to be happy? Please share in the comments below! Like/tweet/pin/share this post if it inspired you, thanks!
Debra Smouse is a writer, life coach, and Tarnished Southern Belle who helps people learn to fall in love with their life. An expert de-tangler, she believes in busting clutter as a path to greater clarity and that everyone woman is vibrant, passionate, and sexy being just itching to make their inner sex kitten roar.
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